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Grief from Healing the Inner Child Oracle by Nina Mongendre and EdieArt. 

Initiation: There is no life without grief. To be alive is to experience moments of pain, change, and loss. Grief gives us compassion. It brings vibrancy to existence. Yet it is also deeply painful. It can isolate us or bring us closer together. There is no right way to grieve. We grieve for people, moments, and live lives in faraway dreams. This card invites you to give a place to your sorrow, to allow some time and tenderness as you allow grief to reveal its gifts.

Inner Child: Take some slow nourishing breaths as you connect with the sadness and grief your inner child might be experiencing in this moment. Who or what is your younger self grieving? Grief does not have to make sense and it isn't comparative. Your inner child's grief over the loss of a pet or moving isn't less than your adult grieving over the loss of a parent or grandparent. Hold space for your inner child's sadness and stay open to what is needed. They might need an embrace, words of comfort, or simply for you to sit with them as they allow sadness to pour forth. Holding space without judgement or advice is the self we apply to the grieving heart. Reassure your inner child by saying, I will stay with you. Ask the child if they would like to come with you when they are ready.

Journey: We too will move on one day and leave behind us the memory of how deeply we loved and were loved. Feel into the ways grief has made you a softer, more loving person. The card, this card invites you to breathe in the gifts of grief and wonder if it's mysterious ways. As Bethany Weber shares in Discovering the Inner Mother, the more loving we allow ourselves to grieve, the more space is created in our lives for magic, beauty, and joy. Look at this card as you take a few long, slow, nourishing breaths. Notice where you are drawn. How does it feel to observe the shimmering light emerging from the dead body of the deer?

The Charms.

Treble Note: Your voice matters. Your pain has a sound — it wants to be sung, not silenced. This is you reclaiming your song, your expression, your emotional truth. Let your voice ring clear, even if it trembles.

The Pumpkin Carriage: The Cinderella symbolism runs deep. You were the one doing the emotional labour, the quiet work, the unseen nurturing — while others seemed to be gifted ease. This charm says: You’re not in the ashes anymore. You are the magic. No fairy godmother is coming — because the magic has always lived in you.

The Spanner: This is the tool in your hand. You’re not just grieving — you’re repairing. You’re tightening the loose parts, dismantling what no longer serves, and beginning the sacred work of putting yourself back together in your own design. It’s gritty, grounded, practical healing. You’re not waiting for someone else to fix it. You’re doing it yourself. And that is power.

The Number One: You are your own beginning now. You come first. Not in a selfish way — but in a soul-healing, rebalancing way. This is your reset. You’re rewriting the story, with you at the centre — no longer a background character in someone else’s tale.